YAKIN!

Dalam kehidupan kita harus yakin dengan diri kita sendiri,terkadang kita berfikir hidup ini ga' adil?
ada juga pertannyaan2 yg timbul dalam benak kita
mengapa dia telahir sempurna sedangkan aku tidak, jawabannya sangat simple untuk anda jiks anda ingin sempurna atau terlihat spesial anda harus berfikir bahwasannya anda juga sempurna

lalu bagaimana dengan taraf kehidupan? apakah saya juga harus pura2 kaya?
dengarlah sobat! manusia diciptakan karena 2 alasan

1. kita harus mengsbdi kepada-Nya
2. kita yg harus mencari tau apa alasan kita terlahir di dunia

lagi pula ga' slamanya anda harus hidup di bawah terus kan?

dengar anda di beri kekurangan bukan karna tuhan ga mau,tapi mungkin anda kurang pantas
karna mugki Dia takut jika anda lupa diri atau mungkin berfoya-foya

lalu bagaimana cara memantaskannya? sabar! kita bahas itu lsin waktu
sekarang yg anda perlukan adalah berfikir,bertindak lalu berbicara

dan kemudian anda harus yakin dengan diri anda bahwasannya anda mampu tuk merubah taraf kehidupan anda

maaf,maaf yg sebesar-besarnya bukannya saya sok tau atau sudah berpengalaman tapi saya
juga belajar bagaimana caranya menjadi pemotivator kita sama2 belajar akan kehidupan
semakin sulit tingkat kepahitan yg kita terima seharusnya kita semakin dewasa karena kita berfikir
bagaimana caranya keluar dari kehidupan yg kelam ini

mari kita berteriak AKU ASTI BISA!

dimanapun anda berada halte,terminal,bus,kapal,angkot,kereta api,mobil,dll
jika ada komentar atau pertannyaan langsung saja ke blog atau fb saya:juan de jude

terima kasih

judging vs. creating

I recently asked some people to explain the difference between being judgmental and being selective. I received dozens of different answers.
Some people said that being selective is milder, more logical, less emotional, or more practical than being judgmental. Others felt they were just different words to describe the same thing. And still others had their own unique takes on the differences.
However you differentiate these labels, they’re variations on the underlying theme of observing and evaluating.
Once you make an evaluation, whether you prefer to call it judging or selecting or something else, you can make decisions based on your evaluations. This allows you to choose between different options, which is especially helpful when you can’t explore every option available to you.

Observe What Arises… or Give Rise to Something New

Another approach, especially when it comes to social interactions, is creating. This gives you more flexibility to experience what you desire, especially if your desired choices aren’t showing up very often yet.
For instance, if you decide to create a day that includes joking and laughter, and you interact on that basis, the people you interact with may or may not join you in that vibe. Some will be in the mood for it, some will be willing to get in the mood, and some won’t want to go there with you.
If you get a mismatch, it’s not a rejection. Just keep holding that vibe, and as you do, you’ll naturally attract more playful people who are delighted to share in such experiences with you. What is repulsive to some is deliciously attractive to others.
The same goes for creating financial abundance. Once you assume the posture of creating abundance in your life, you will quickly see your scarcity-minded friends, family, and co-workers fall out of alignment with you. Some may become critical of your new direction. Others will excuse themselves from your reality.
This doesn’t require controlling people, merely inviting them into shared experiences with you. Then let them accept or decline your invitation as they see fit.
In other words, instead of observing and evaluating others, you can assume a more creative posture, and then let others observe and evaluate you.

Finding Matches vs. Creating Matches

Now there’s nothing wrong with observing and evaluating. We can’t help but do this, and in certain situations, it works very well.
However, sometimes when we observe and evaluate, we notice that our preferred matches just aren’t showing up with the level of frequency we’d like. That’s when creating can often deliver faster results. By broadcasting a certain vibe or desire more openly, we allow others to observe and evaluate us. If we’re a good match, they’ll be drawn to us. If not, we’ll repel them, which will create more space for the matches to notice and approach us.
Letting the mismatches move away from us also makes it easier to keep holding the new creative vibe. It’s tough to create abundance while scarcity-minded folks are clinging to you (or while you’re clinging to them).
How do you know which mode is best? Let me suggest a good rule of thumb for that.
If you feel like you’re already swimming in a sea of delightful and accessible options, and it’s just a matter of choosing between good, better, and best, then observing and evaluating makes sense. You’ll probably get very good results simply by choosing from what’s showing up. This is like ordering from a restaurant menu that’s filled with dishes you love.
On the other hand, if you’re feeling bored, frustrated, apathetic, angry, depressed, checked out, or stressed about your options in some area, frequently evaluating your options as dull, dreadful, or uninspired, then it’s time to take matters into your own hands. Create a clearer picture of what you desire, and feel your way into being there. Behave as you would if you already had it. Access the creator mind within yourself, and command your reality to fulfill this desire. Then let people observe and evaluate you and respond according to their evaluations.
Yes, this may take some courage, but it’s worth it. What’s the alternative anyway? To remain stuck? You mostly just need courage to get moving. Once you’ve built up a certain level of momentum and start seeing results on the positive side, sustaining your momentum is much easier.

Using Both Modes

Overall this has been a year of abundant happiness for me. I love the options that have been showing up, and I’ve been saying yes a lot. The options that present themselves seem to be a great match for my interests and desires. Consequently, I’ve spent most of my time this year in observing and evaluating mode. That’s been working well for me.
But whenever I want to make a bigger shift, or if I simply want to speed things along, then I move into creator mode. That’s a fun and exciting place to be. I enjoy seeing the energetic ripples that happen as people observe and evaluate the shift I’m creating.
Usually what happens first is that the people who are not a match for what I’m creating will balk at my new direction. Some will complain loudly. Others will quickly excuse themselves from my reality. I just sit back, let them update their evaluations, and respond however they feel is best. I’m not attached to whether they want to be a part of my reality or not. I understand and accept that some people won’t be a match for my new choices.
If I’m blogging about what I’m doing, then it usually takes a few posts for these ripples to play out.
At the same time, but sometimes with a bit of a delay, different people soon recognize that I just became a stronger match for their interests and desires, and they move closer. Sometimes they’re very direct in expressing their enthusiastic support, including offers of help and resources. Other times they’re less direct, but it’s clear they’re moving closer to me. Perhaps I also notice these people because I’m moving closer to them too.
This happens with pretty much any kind of change that involves a shift into creator mode. Examples include starting my own business, going vegan, changing careers, moving to Las Vegas, getting into public speaking, exploring D/s play and threesomes, learning music, and traveling more frequently.
Sometimes these shifts are pretty mild, like when I began learning about music. Other times they can be rather explosive, such as when my wife and I separated in 2009. How this plays out depends on the nature of the shift and how the people around me are evaluating that shift.